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Well, I'm a happy boy, at the age of 15, 16 next X-Mas, and I live a happy life (in my opinion)... Well, at least until recently.

Now I'm in need of your help... I'll give you a short background story;

Ever since my mother was born, she has carried disease after disease, which in turn has nearly destroyed her spine. She is also diabetic. Five years ago, doctors concluded that she might never be able to walk again, because her spine was filled with small "empty-spaces" aka holes, which had severely damaged and weakened it, and I fear she might collapse at any time...
Anyway, recently my mother and father haven't been able to get along very well. Dad always complains about he having to do all the work, even though me and my sister are trying to help him as good as we can, and mom's always playing World of Warcraft (which is the only thing she can do, as she's now unable to take a stroll in the town, or walk further than a kilometer), and dad's blaming HER for her illness, and they are arguing a lot now, and nowadays, mom's crying more often as they argue. I fear they are going to split up.
But if they do split up, we will be forced to come with dad, as mom is unable to care for us. And she will be sent to somewhere (probably a hospital or something) for the rest of her life. I don't want them to split up at all, as deep down, they still love each others, and I can see it...

However, I fear this might be the case. I'm not a supporter of these kinds of topics, nor do I want to make this, but I'm desperate.
Please help...

Well...that is life. But, you must be strong and you must work hard at school.
In future...if you're successfull you can help your families.

Right now, you're just living in your parents house and you're using their cash.

All you need is your soul, minde and your heart to complete your education.

P.S. I felt very sorry for you.

Firstly I am very sorry to hear of your troubles, you and your family hav my deepest sympathy.

Maybe you should just talk to your parents-that might help
Also, how about asking DR Phil? , You dont have to appear on the show.

Link to his website:http://www.drphil.com/

Link to Ask Dr Phil page:http://www.drphil.com/plugger/respond/?plugID=9163

hope he can help

Sheba

I feel for you Wolflux. Sadly, there is little that can be done. Just work hard at school and stick it through. It won't last forever.

Yeah...how about...not do that again, for starters?

Anywho. I don't want to point fingers. It's good that you're helping her, but your mom really should be trying to help herself as well, instead of playing....erm...World of Warcraft all day. Ask her to make the effort. She's hasn't lost her ability to do EVERTHING. And tell your dad to help him understand that her infirmity serverly limits her capabilities...

From what you give us, it appears that most of your mom's diseases are genetic, so your dad has no right to blame her for them. I'm sorry I don't have a clear answer for you, Wolflux, but your mom and dad really need to try harder. YOU NEED TO TALK WITH THEM. Standing by, and letting them argue will only escalate the problem more.

Talk with your mom. Agree on a list of things she can still do, so she can manage her time better and contribute. Talk with your dad. Let him know that your mom will only get worse if nothing's done.

...believe me, I have an auntie whose quadropegic (paralyzed) from the neck down. An uncle and a (lackadaisic) caretaker tend to her, yet her family has still managed to stay intact.

That's all I got. Hope it works out for you, Wolflux!! I really do.

Wow, Lux..I'm really sorry to hear that, but I feel your pain. My parents split up 6 years ago when I was little, and my mother has a boyfriend who doesn't like my dad..so, we're moving and I'll probably never see him again.

But, I think the best thing you could do would be what Suka said : talk to them. Work something out. If you don't do anything about it, the worst could happen. If anything, your mother should at least be in some kind of physical therapy.

Daw, that's really bad Lux.

I think the best thing to do is what Suka said, talk to them.
That's what I do when my mum is depressed or anything, she doesn't have anything like what your mum has but has problems. I found the best way to help is to sit down and talk properly with both your parents, sort out the little things your mum can still do without hurting her back or doing too much and help your dad a bit, just the small things can make the biggest differences, like doing the dishes.

I feel really sorry for ya pal.