Much of what's been said, I agree with completely.
It takes time for people to notice, so prepare to be patient.
I also agree that commenting other people may bring recognition on yourself, as long as you don't write 'nice fic' or 'great job, read mine.'
On the other side, favorites aren't everything. Sure it's nice to know that people like to read your stories, but if you don't have enough or you have less than 'so-and-so,' don't worry.
Personally, I value comments, reviews and
helpful critiques a million times more than favorites.
'Flames' just hack me off, but I try not to let them get to me. I advise the same to you and everyone else. Don't let someon like that get you down or make you angry. You're only giving them what they want at that point.
By the by, I read your fic 'Fire Water' on Balto Central once, and the whole thing shook me emotionally for a week. That takes talent, and a knack at throwing the perverbial 'curve-ball' of plots. Nicely done.
Write on!
-LWf